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a thread of things to NOT say to someone when you are comforting them :
“omg same”
you are INVALIDATING the person’s pain ? and i thought it was common sense to not say this lmao
you are INVALIDATING the person’s pain ? and i thought it was common sense to not say this lmao
“:(“
i thought it was common sense to not say this but ig not
i thought it was common sense to not say this but ig not
“damn”
there is no need to explain this one
there is no need to explain this one
“other people have it worse you know”
stares
stares
“okay but i-“
you are comforting this person by bringing up yourself ? make it make sense
you are comforting this person by bringing up yourself ? make it make sense
“oof :(“
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“go drink some water” or “go for a walk or something”
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yes because doing either of those will make everything go away
and here is a continuation of what you should say instead
let the person know that you are there for them emotionally. allow them to trust you with their issues and that you are the person that they can trust. it’s not healthy to bottle up emotions. even a simple “i am always here for you” can do so much more than an “oof”
if the person is grieving, allow them to grieve. don’t say things like “you’re so strong” bc that‘s the worse possible thing you cans say to someone who’s grieving (you’re actually telling them that it‘s weak if they grieve).
if the person is opening up bottled emotions, DO NOT bring yourself up. you‘re invalidating their feelings and letting them know that their experiences are unimportant and that they have other things to worry about aside from what they are dealing with.
end of thread ; i hope i somehow taught you something or another
